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jarandhel: (Kirin)
Monday, August 27th, 2007 10:57 am
I don't always network as well as I should. I have an annoying tendency to go to people I think may be most likely to be able to help with a particular issue based on what I already know about these people, and don't regularly poll my friends to see if there is anyone else who might be knowledgeable in a given subject who I don't already know about. At the moment, I'm feeling somewhat pulled to go against that tendency. I've already put out a couple feelers on this subject privately, but here is the question I would like to pose to my friends:

Does anyone know of a NLP trainer (preferably in the DC metro area, but that is not necessarily a deal breaker) who offers NLP training at a reasonable price? I've been looking into NLP more and more, and I'd be rather interested in getting formal training in it, but frankly the prices I have seen so far are outrageous. The average NLP training seems to run around 98 to 112 hours for practitioner certification, and appears to cost somewhere around $2,300 US as far as I can tell. As contrast, massage therapy training (which is arguably more complex as it requires a functional knowledge of anatomy in order to avoid doing harm to patients) generally requires around 500 hours of training for practitioner certification and typically run around 5,000 USD on average. That means that NLP courses cost, on average, around $10.50 per hour more than massage training does. I don't see anything that justifies those sorts of fees for NLP. A massage course of similar length, in states which only require 100 hours of training for certification, could be acquired for one thousand or less. Frankly, the only reason I can see for NLP's inflated pricetag is its popularity in the world of business and politics where companies and organizations are likely to pay for their employees to receive the training. Which hedges out private individuals of lesser means from receiving the same training.
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Tuesday, August 21st, 2007 08:11 pm
In my last post, I asked a question: "What is it that lets you know you are my friend, and I care about you?" So far, I've gotten 7 responses to that (6 public, one private), so if you haven't responded yet I would very much appreciate hearing from you.

But I'd like to also pose a follow-up question. What, if anything, do I do that makes you feel as if I don't consider you a close friend? What words of mine tell you that? What, if anything, gives me the appearance of not caring?

If these exercises have been somewhat confusing, I should probably explain. I am attempting to evaluate my communication, particularly in my relationships with the people I care about. The people I consider friends and (chosen) family. I want to make certain that I am consistently sending the message that I do love and care about each of my friends and family. And one of the lessons of NLP is that the meaning of a communication is how it is received. Some people may feel loved when I listen to them. Others, when I tell them jokes and try to cheer them up when they're down. Others when they're hugged or cuddled with. Still others when I give them the space they need to feel comfortable. Or when i feed them. Or when I let them buy me dinner and hang out with them. Or... well, you get the idea. Each of you are different. Each of you have different cues that tell you someone really loves you. You also have different cues that may make you feel unloved. I want to get to know how to properly send the message to each of the people I care about that you are my friends, my family even, and that you are loved.

For my part, I'm highly kinesthetic so it's mainly tangible things that make me feel loved. Hugs and cuddling are really good, even hugs from relative strangers can make me feel rather good. (Complete strangers would creep me out, but I will happily hug someone on a first meeting if a friend is introducing us and the person being introduced strikes me as cool.) But I also have a number of friends who are not that tactile, and they do things that make me feel just as loved. Getting deep into a discussion on esoteric (not just metaphysical, but exotic subjects like NLP or martial arts too) subjects is one thing that really works for me... not just superficial stuff but real meat and new ideas. I know this seems less tangible and more auditory, but it's not for me. The way I relate to studying is very visceral. Having someone to bounce my ideas off of, and to point me towards new ideas, is a very tactile experience for me. It's also, to me, a kind of energetic connection and exchange. (Which is another way to make me feel loved, so all you Reiki addicts who like feeding from me, yeah that makes me feel loved too. :)) Feeding me, or even better letting me cook for you and genuinely enjoying my cooking also make me feel loved. I think you get the idea. There are probably others, but I just made my first batch of instant coffee here at home and I may have made it a wee bit too strong, so I'm having just a tiny bit of trouble focusing at the moment. But yay chocolate creamer! Chocolate creamerized coffee makes me feel loved too. ;-)
jarandhel: (Kirin)
Friday, August 17th, 2007 02:49 pm
I'm going through a learning phase at the moment, and it has prompted me to try to take a look at how I relate to others, and sound out one particular aspect of our relationship in particular. So I need to ask a question of everyone who considers me their friend (and I don't mean that in the LJ sense):

How do you know I care about you? How do you know that I consider you my friend as well? How do you know, in short, that you are someone I love?

I'm not at all saying any of you are wrong to think I care, or wrong to think you are my friend and someone I love. What I'm asking is: What words or actions of mine tell you that I love you? What gives you a sense of the way I feel about you? What lets you see how much you mean to me?

I'd really like to hear from everyone who considers themselves my friends on this, though for once I'm not going to be responding to comments, just listening. If you don't feel comfortable answering publicly, please feel free to email me. I really want to touch base with everyone on this.
jarandhel: (Kirin)
Thursday, February 15th, 2007 12:26 am
"Religious Orientation"

Just something I want to think more about.