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chasingcaribou:
This is with the assumption these people don’t realize what they say is problematic (and sometimes they don’t, but sometimes they do),
No, it really doesn’t matter whether they realize what they say is problematic or not. They’re posting it publicly, for public consideration and response. Period.
or aren’t mature people who have ‘grown up’,
If they expect to be coddled by posting publicly but not receiving any critical responses, ever, then yes they are not mature people and they have not grown up.
or aren’t just emotionally venting or angsting when they post, too sometimes.
Public emotional venting still invites comment. If you want to vent privately to just your friends and people you know will support rather than criticize you, there are services like livejournal, dreamwidth, and facebook that allow you to post to specific groups rather than only posting privately or publicly. Tumblr doesn’t give you that option.
(Still curious about that unhealthy thinking from ze other blog topic about phantom wings, by the by, if you’ve ever a moment. ^^ If I am saying something problematic and potentially harmful, it is important for people to point it out so it ends.)
Sorry, it looks like I missed your response. I don’t know if you have this issue, but I’ve found my dashboard doesn’t always display new reblogs. It didn’t display that one, nor this one actually. I only caught this one because I noticed there was a higher number of likes/replies on it now than there had been a minute ago and I wanted to see what the new reply was. I thought it was someone else replying to you, rather than you replying to me. I’ll go back and reply to the other now.
chasingcaribou:
This is with the assumption these people don’t realize what they say is problematic (and sometimes they don’t, but sometimes they do),
No, it really doesn’t matter whether they realize what they say is problematic or not. They’re posting it publicly, for public consideration and response. Period.
or aren’t mature people who have ‘grown up’,
If they expect to be coddled by posting publicly but not receiving any critical responses, ever, then yes they are not mature people and they have not grown up.
or aren’t just emotionally venting or angsting when they post, too sometimes.
Public emotional venting still invites comment. If you want to vent privately to just your friends and people you know will support rather than criticize you, there are services like livejournal, dreamwidth, and facebook that allow you to post to specific groups rather than only posting privately or publicly. Tumblr doesn’t give you that option.
(Still curious about that unhealthy thinking from ze other blog topic about phantom wings, by the by, if you’ve ever a moment. ^^ If I am saying something problematic and potentially harmful, it is important for people to point it out so it ends.)
Sorry, it looks like I missed your response. I don’t know if you have this issue, but I’ve found my dashboard doesn’t always display new reblogs. It didn’t display that one, nor this one actually. I only caught this one because I noticed there was a higher number of likes/replies on it now than there had been a minute ago and I wanted to see what the new reply was. I thought it was someone else replying to you, rather than you replying to me. I’ll go back and reply to the other now.